someoneintheshadow456:

candidlyautistic:

autasticanna:

Facts that adults don’t tell you about bullying

– Communication doesn’t work on bullies. Telling a bully they’re making you feel bad is the wrong way to go. They want to make you feel bad. That’s the point.

– being kind to a bully doesn’t always mean they’ll stop. Sometimes it means they’ll just use your kindness to manipulate you while still continuing to bully you.

– not every bully has a sympathetically tragic home life. Sometimes people are just mean. Sometimes people just get off on hurting others.

– on that note, a tough home life is a reason, not an excuse. You don’t have to put up with bullying because somebody’s life sucks, just like you don’t have to let someone mug you because they’re broke.

– in order to forgive someone, they have to apologize first. If your bully has not apologized to you, you do not owe them anything.

– getting bullied as a kid can still mess you up in adult life. Maybe kids grow out of being bullies, but the marks they left often don’t go away.

– there are ways to get people to stop bullying you, but they almost all involve being mean back.

– as long as parents keep raising shitty bullying kids, there will be bullies. No amount of assemblies and hand-drawn posters will fix the problem. It’s the parents’ fault.

– It’s not your responsibility to fix your bully or to stop the abuse they send your way, but some adults sure will act like it is.

– Many times (especially in the case of girls) your friends can be your bullies. This makes things even worse as these are people who know you and your intimate secrets and use them to their advantage. If your friends are bullies, don’t take crap from them. Get new friends.