Some Asshole: You can’t be! Truly yourself! If you’re on medication! It’s changing the Real You™!
Me: if the real me is going to lie on the floor for 3 weeks and try to drown herself in the river I don’t want to know her, Barbara
ADHD and Boredom
Feeling bored usually happens when nothing in your environment captures your interest or attention. Boredom might start with your mind, but it can quickly affect your body and emotions too. For example, you might feel restless or fatigued and your mood can plummet.
Boredom is one of the things people with ADHD fear the most and will go to great lengths to avoid it. How many of these have you done?
- Hang up the phone if you are put on hold; even if you were in the middle are resolving an important issue.
- Eat something, even though you aren’t hungry.
- Phone a person you don’t like that much, just to have someone to talk to.
- Delay going to bed until you are completely exhausted to avoid the boredom of lying in bed waiting to fall asleep.
- Create an argument; with a service provider, or someone you love.
- Act in a potentially dangerous way. For example: overtake a slow driver even if it’s not completely safe because driving behind them is boring.
The opposite of bored is interested, energized and cheerful. Adults with ADHD are always looking for things that are new or stimulating because when they are interested in something, the executive functions of the brain click into gear and the brain works well.
When a task is dull or mundane, not only is it very hard to mentally stay engaged, there are other negative consequences too. For example, daytime sleepiness – where you fall asleep in the middle of an activity; even if you got plenty of sleep the night before.
Some people experience depression if their environment isn’t stimulating.
How to Avoid BoredomGet to know yourself and your favourite ways to avoid boredom
Here are some common boredom busters: Trying the new and different, spending time with people, doing adrenaline activities, taking risks, problem-solving, adding movement, being ‘hands on’, etc.
When you know your favourite ways, design your life around those things, so each day is interesting for you. This includes your job and how you approach the tasks in your job description, your hobbies, and as well as how you do the mundane tasks of life; such as housework.
Be prepared
Life is full of delays, so have a variety of activities on hand. For example, if you are flying, take a magazine which is visual, a book that you can get engrossed in, as well as a puzzle book. Don’t leave things to chance and hope there will be a good movie to watch or that you will be sitting next to someone entertaining.
Use a timer
Using a timer can make even the dullest things interesting, as it creates a sense of urgency and excitement. Play games with yourself. For example, see if you can do all the washing up in 15 minutes.
Balance
It is good to have self-awareness that you don’t like feeling bored and so you can do what is in your power to avoid it. However, don’t become too fearful of being bored that you will do anything to avoid it.
This is how accidents happen. If you are bored, it is empowering to know you can sit with it for a few moments. Meditation and exercise are 2 daily habits that help you to endure unexpected boring parts of your day.
Mindfulness training also helps with boredom. When you learn to meditate and become comfortable with it, moments of boredom can be filled with meditation that can also be calming. I just did it this morning at the gas pump because I HATE waiting for my tank to fill up.
My stimming gets worse the more bored I am (or stressed, but… boredom IS stressful lol). Rocking/spinning, hair twirling, cheek-chewing, pen-clicking, nail biting, skin-picking…
I honestly hate how art and media have kind of romanticized the idea of like “going off your meds and being your true self again” because like I started taking antidepressants and like immediately got a new job, found a place to live, improved my relationships with people in my life and completely reconciled with my sort of estranged ex-girlfriend?? Medication can be rad and while I realize that it’s not for everybody I don’t think anything should be trying to convince anyone that being on medication inherently makes you less of who you are
(Most) Medication is for helping you to be you again. The real me isn’t tired by just walking to the train station. The real me is not my anxiety or depression. They don’t define me.
The real me is who I am when I’m not anxious and feeling worthless 24/7.
Medication is supposed to be the chemical equivalent of glasses or a wheelchair, depending on the severity of impairment. It tries to help you compensate for what has been taken, been broken, or is missing.
In particular, i always hear the myth that anti-depressants give you “artificial happiness”… no, no, no. They give your brain the ability to be happy. You won’t always be happy, and sometimes you’ll be sad. But the happiness you’re able to feel when you’re on meds is your own, real, happiness.
SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE NEUROTYPICALS IN THE BACK!!!
I am 100% better on meds then off. I resisted meds for a long time, in part because of BS like this. I was worried about losing my creativity. But you know what? When I wasn’t anxious all the time, when my depression faded a bit, when my mood became more even, THEN I had more energy to create, my brain had more space to come up with positive things, I could actually focus on the things I wanted to do.
Medications become less effective over time as your body gets used to them. I’ve been on these current meds for a couple years now and I don’t think they’re working as well, but even so I’m still a LOT better then I was.
Last year was really hard, really stressful. Job loses and money problems and car problems, and I honestly don’t think I could have handled everything as well as I did without being on my meds. Even when I didn’t have insurance I still came up with the $80/mo for the out of pocket cost of my meds because I knew it was making all the difference.
What made me finally get help and get on meds was essentially failing a semester and a half of school. I’m kicking myself now because I’ve run out of financial aid and I’ve got one more semester to go (so if I hadn’t failed I’d be graduated now). But I can’t change the past, and I know that since I am on meds now, I’ll be able to finish, to focus.
And I’m 37 years old. It’s never too late to realize you have a problem and get the help you need.
In the aftermath of Orlando, you can get free mental health services from United — even if you don’t have insurance
UnitedHealth Group is offering free mental health services to anyone in the country who was emotionally affected by the shooting at Pulse in Orlando – even if you don’t have health insurance.
Optum will operate a 24/7 helpline, and users can speak to a trained mental health professional for as long as they need. Individuals can call toll-free at 866-342-6892. The company is also providing access to their benefits site, which contains mental health information like professional tips on how to manage anxiety.
“The helpline can be an easy, accessible way for people to reach out,” William Bonfield, chief medical officer of OptumHealth Behavioral Solutions, told The Huffington Post. “It can provide support, an opportunity to talk and help a person decide if mental health treatment may be helpful.”
Please please please take advantage of this if you need it! Mental healthcare is so important but can be so freaking expensive, and processing Pulse might take a lot out of you. That’s okay – help is out there. And if you’re looking for someone LGBTQ-specific to talk to, the Trevor Project and Trans Lifeline are available for you too.
If you know someone who’s depressed, please resolve never to ask them why. Depression isn’t a straightforward response to a bad situation; depression just is, like the weather. It’s hard to be a friend to someone who’s depressed but it is one of the kindest noblest and best things you will ever do.
It’s unlikely that anyone would tell a child in a wheelchair that he could get up and walk if he tried harder. His handicap is obvious and everyone understands his limitations. Unfortunately not many people understand the hidden handicap of an ADD child